Thursday, March 25, 2010

Friendship

Thursday

Finally all those tests, assignments and projects have come to an end today. Since we (my classmates and I) have been hearing and saying all those 3 nouns for this whole semester, I do not and will not speak more about them. But, talking about all those works, there is an interesting thing to talk about that is relationship among friends.

There are many kinds of people as we all know (I am very very sure that you all know, but how well do you know?). Human beings are remarkable kind of creature because they have minds to THINK compared to other animals. But at the same time, it is also that the “great” mind which makes simple thing becomes complicated. (But the way, animals eg. dogs are also improving themselves too because they can “read” their owners’ minds since long time ago. Therefore, I myself sometimes think that the gap between human beings and animals are getting closer as if we are interchanging our roles; some humans are doing something just like animals nowadays while animals are behaving like humans after living together with humans for such a time. It is a great philosophy. I do not want to discuss much because I am not PhD in it. The above is just what I feel via reading and hearing).

Back to the relationship among friends, I just want to express what I feel as I explained in my first blog. No means of insulting to anyone. I made a friend of mine had and is still having misunderstanding about me due to the words I said during a day where I dressed up smartly to attend a event. Until now, I am still wondering what sentences that I said that made him feel that I insulted him. I can feel the “cold war” (not a war actually, just to bring out the meaning of talking less after the misunderstanding.) between us. You do not deny it oh. Haha. It is very common for people to misunderstand us especially the people who do not know us well or the people who do not even care to know you more. I should have forgotten it, but I can’t because I care about what people think of me. I do not mean every word you say can affect my emotion, but what I care is the negative reaction of you due to my “negative” (in your point of view) action. Action=reaction. Newton’s Third Law. This law is even applied in a very meaningful and educational French movie entitled Les Choristes in French or The Chorus in English. Discover it yourself if you are really interested. It is a favorite movie of mine. I feel that it is really meaningful, but it is still subjective to you. We can share about our views once you have watched it too.

I am sincere and frank to the extent accepted by my friends and I. Sometimes, I may think that the words are nothing, but in your heart you may feel excruciating hearing my words. Sorry if I make you feel so. Yet, this also carries the message that we still have a long journey to become greater friend. Once you understand me and I understand you, then we ourselves can judge whether or not the sarcastic words we say carry the meaning of a joke or actually sarcasm. Use your (engineering) judgment wisely, my fellow future engineer friends. One more thing, when I do not speak and keep quiet, some of my friends “complaint” that I looks hostile. Thank you because you are frank to me, giving me to improve and upgrade. I like sincerity from friends especially when most of others are multi-faceted people. I will try to smile more to balance up the serious and cool (haha, use cool pula) face awarded by my parents. Hehe. Sometimes when I am exhausted, I will speak less because I am really exhausted. Instead of saying that I am hostile, why don’t you ask me why I just look quieter than normal days. There are two options, first is that I am tired of works or facing problems, second, you have really done something that make me feel angry about you. Haha. If you do not do something bad to me, why should you feel scared to ask me why my face looks “black”. I am not an irrational person who releases my anger over other innocent people.

Hehe. In conclusion (walao, like formal writing pula, haha), I can’t be perfect (a song of Simple Plan). Just try my best to deal with you guys. Haha, to You, time heals old wounds. Hope that we will have a long chat again. For others, do not ask me who is the “victim”. Please follow my next blog to know more. Hahaha. Isn’t it wonderful to have some curiosity in life, is it? It may be just a made-up story of mine to satisfy my desire to practise my writing. When the time comes, it will be revealed. ^o^. Lastly, “Faint heart never won fair lady”. But, 被人关心是幸福快乐的;关心别人时也应让人觉得如此 (Being concerned is a happy thing; when you concern people, you should make them feel so), otherwise just forget about it. (OK, stop here. I want to rest already after spending the evening for me to take a nap after rushing for works yesterday till 6.30am and woke up at 8.10am today to present the works, to write this blog which has been kept in my heart for quite a long time). See you again.

6 comments:

  1. 朋友是生活中不可缺少的
    知己难找
    幸运地我有四个。。。哈哈~~~
    应该算五个了吧
    在大学里你是唯一跟我聊得来的。。。
    哈哈~~男的知己很难找。。。
    只要我们用心对待他人。。。他人会感受得到的。。。

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  2. 谢谢你的支持与关心.认识到你是我的荣幸.哈哈哈.那句话值得请我一杯浓郁的咖啡吗? ^o* "只要我们用心对待他人。。。他人会感受得到的。。。".很认同这一句.往往太多太多事情都是我能掌握之外的.让事实与时间解释一切吧.

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  3. 人际关系是一门用钱也买不到的学问。。。不经一事不长一智,希望你经过这次的过程中能学到更多的人身哲学。。。

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  4. Erm.. mayb u should not start ur word with negative remarks my friends, u can, but not always.
    Eg.

    Me: Yew ping later can help me take things ?
    You: Tak BOLEH!!
    then you smile
    You: Can la.. later i help u.
    But u still have your serios face.
    Sometimes towards ppl who no longer close to you when u give -ve comment, the -ve sticks in their head ady.. so choose ur words with the ppl u are talking to..

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  5. from ur words i knw tat u hope for an answer o xplaination, n now it is in a condition which 2 persons r having totally different opinions.

    one is looking forward d xplaination, may b he tins tat it is d only solution in solving any kind of human relationship pblm. but, another person is holding firmly his philosophy, time can heal every tin, esp in human relationship (at here, we r talking about frenship).

    as wat u say above, human brain sumtime (shoudld say 'oftenly' actually) make a simple tin into complicated. for d latter, a bad experience make history, and only in history, not future, y dun juz let it pass instead of hold it tightly in ur hand???

    u do care others' opinions, how about others??? ans is 'we do...' but d method on tackle others bad opinion about us is different between former and latter.

    d latter is a person who act aggressively to a matter tat is unreasonable, but he do forget every unhappy tin easily n quickly.

    so now u shd udstd y d latter choose the time to heal every tin but not xplaination (relationship). he stil do himself like b4, treat d former as a fren. he stil chat wif d former like others, nth change within himself (frenship not d case we muz have long n deep chat between each other, short chat may cum to d same effect if u do it wif sincerity). but seems like former make d whole tin bcum too too too complicated.

    laz but not least, xplaination is a way to settle a pblm, but sumtime it may lead a pblm to becum worse (before u xplain, nth happen, only unhappy for a while; once u xplain, thr wil b a blemish in his heart, not only now, but future too. N... u may say blemish can b wiped off, but u r juz a human, not d case u click d 'clear' button, then every tin wil go bec to d original condition)

    so... based on comment above, we can confirm tat d latter actually fine, he stil can b a great fren wif former, for sure...

    to Former: we live in dis wide world, if we nvr look at a tin widely n far, we wil b hard to move even one step. 看开点吧...nth is perfect, n only d unperfect wil make us improve, make us grow. so do take it n learn it, every tin wil be fine if u treat it NATURALLY...

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  6. S.Seng:肯定的.活到老学到老.^o^.TQ.
    Wilfred:Ok,i tried to make jokes, but who knows it turned out to be a "lousy joke".Smiling makes a better world. I will be more "choosy" later.Hehe.
    Anonymous: Thx for commenting.Hope the imperfection/blemish I gain from your comment make me improve and grow.I did not mean to make things complicated, but I just wanted to express what I felt.At least now my "heart" disk can delete the space for this trivial matter since it was out. Wahaha. So, let it be - be natural.Friend is still friend.Peace. V*o*V

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